MeRrY cHRiStmAs!!

December 25, 2006
    Time flies…. I can’t believe that this is another year already and we are moving into Year 2007. I am not sure what is lying ahead for me in Year 2007. I have read a few astrological prediction and according to most of the Chinese Zodiac, Year 2007 is not going to be a good year for those people born in the year of Snake.  However, i don’t really believe in all this and i need to believe in myself, try my best in every aspect and do not give up easily. One of the most important questions i need to consider is whether i should stay put with my current job. I am really not sure… When i first broke up with Chew, i was thinking it is either he stays or i leave as it was really hard for two formal lovers to work in the same company. Thank god that i am matured enough to handle this situation and i do not need to take this into consideration when i consider the question to stay put with my current job.
 
    I felt sorry over the passing of Thien’s mum on Christmas eve. Both Thien and Khanh are still in grief over the death of their love ones and how i wish i can be there in Adelaide to be with them. I told Khanh over the phone that Christians take it easy over this and she has to be strong and she has to take care of herself as well as her little son.
 
    I am so glad that CW Lee loves the X’mas gift that i gave him on Friday night and he actually opened it on X’mas day. It always feel good when you get people something that they like. Thanks to CW Lee for the Christian Dior shimmering lip gloss that he bought me too, nice gift wrapping + nice gift!
 
    Thanks to LK for reminding me to spring clean my heart. Her message was short and concise but it meant a lot to me, tears came out from my eyes after i read her message. 
 
    I am really looking forward to my trip to Singapore this coming weekend. I have not been there for almost 2 years where the last trip was quite an enjoyable one where Jayne, Joice and myself went there to watch Mama Mia at the Esplanade. I still remember the custom people checked on us for a long time as there were 4 of us in the car with 3 different nations  (Malaysian + Singaporean + Indonesian). Jayne and I shall meet up with Joice again in Medan in April 2007 and there will be lots of girl’s talk when we meet again. It is a bit pity that Vicky cannot join us when she comes back from Adelaide with her hubby. Anyway, i am really looking foward to see Vicky too!  
 
    HAPPY HOLIDAYS + MERRY CHIRSTMAS + HAPPY NEW YEAR!!    
See you all in Year 2007…   

Hold The Hand You Love

December 18, 2006

Little girl and her father were crossing a bridge. The father was kind of scared so he asked his little daughter, sweetheart, please hold my hand so that you don’t fall into the river." The little girl said, "No, Dad. You hold my hand." "What’s the difference?" Asked the puzzled father.

"There’s a big difference," replied the little girl. "If I hold your hand and something happens to me,
chances are that I may let your hand go. But if you hold my hand, I know for sure that no matter what happens, you will never let my hand go."

In any relationship, the essence of trust is not in its bind, but in its bond. So hold the hand of the
person whom you love rather than expecting them to hold ours…


Meaningful…

December 9, 2006
 
Meaningful quotes from David:
  • Love starts with a smile, grows with a kiss, and ends with a tear.
  • Don’t cry over anyone who won’t cry over you.
  • Good friends are hard to find, harder to leave, and impossible to forget.
  • You can only go as far as you push.
  • Actions speak louder than words.
  • The hardest thing to do is watch the one you love, love somebody else.
  • Don’t let the past hold you back; you’re missing the good stuff.
  • Life’s short. If you don’t look around once in a while, you might miss it.
  • A best friend is like a four leaf clover: hard to find and lucky to have.
  • If you think that the world means nothing, think again. You might mean the world to someone else. 
  • When it hurts to look back, and you’re scared to look ahead, you can look beside you and your best friend will be there
  • True friendship never ends.
  • Friends are forever.
  • Good friends are like stars….You don’t always see them, but you know they are always there.
  • Don’t frown. You never know who is falling in love with your smile.
  • What do you do when the only person who can make you stop crying is the person who made you cry?
  • NOBODY IS PERFECT UNTIL YOU FALL IN LOVE WITH THEM. (Isn’t that the truth?)
  • Everything is okay in the end. If it’s not okay, then it’s not the end.Most people walk in and out of you life. But only True friends leave footprints in your heart.
  • Most people walk in and out of you life. But only True friends leave footprints in your heart.

aBOut lOvE

December 8, 2006
    往往许多人在抉择伴侣时,容易东想西想,不知所措,就是因为害怕一时做错决定,看错人,造成终生的遗憾。
    诺贝尔文学奖得主萧伯纳说:「此时此刻在地球上,约有两万个人适合当你的人生伴侣,就看你先遇到哪一个,如果在第二个理想伴侣出现之前,你已经跟前一个人发展出相知相惜、互相信赖的深层关系,那后者就会变成你的好朋友,但是若你跟前一个人没有培养出深层关系,感情就容易动摇、变心,直到你与这些理想伴侣候选人的其中一位拥有稳固的深情,才是幸福的开始,漂泊的结束」
    爱上一个人不需要靠努力,只需要靠「际遇」,是上天的安排,但是「持续地爱一个人」就要靠「努力」,在爱情的经营中,顺畅运转的要素就是沟通、体谅、包容与自制(面临诱惑有所自制)。有许多人总是为「际遇」所迷惑与苦恼,意念不停、欲念不断、争逐不散,而忘了培养经营感情的能力才是幸福的关键。
    所以不要去追问到底谁才是我的Mr. Right,而是要问说在眼前的伴侣关系中,我能努力到什么程度、成长到什么程度,若没有培养出经营幸福的能力,就算真的 Mr. Right出现在你身边,幸福依然会错过的,而活在犹疑与遗憾当中,这不就是许多「爱情虚无症」的遭遇与心态吗?
    若你此刻已有一位长久相伴的伴侣,不要再随便三心二意地犹疑了,我们往往不易察觉感情中的一个陷阱,就是「近亲生慢侮」,也就是经济学中的铁律「边际效益递减法则」,跟你在一起越久的人,就越容易麻木与忽视,而新鲜的「际遇」总是那么动人可爱。
    在感情对待中,难免有摩擦与无心的伤害,而且论得罪自己的次数累加起来最多的人,当然是跟我们在一起最久、最亲近的人。而新欢呢,又还没开始有得罪你的机会,再加上他的刻意讨好,所以新欢怎么看怎么可爱,旧爱怎么看怎么讨厌。
    但别忘了,新欢身上总是有不确定的未知数,旧爱身上就是有难得的熟悉感、确定感、信赖感。千万不要随便在偶然的「际遇」中迷失了自己,错放了幸福温暖的手。
    所以萧伯纳的话,是要提醒情人不要太钻牛角尖于寻觅那唯一,应该把精神用在学会经营幸福的能力上,同时也提醒我们「溺水三千只取一瓢饮」若有幸遇到了难得的伴侣,就不要再三心二意了,因为我们永远不知道一生何时会遇到两万个其中的几个,所以要知福惜福 、活在当下
 
    勇气
    终于作了这个决定          别人怎么说我不理
    只要你也一样的肯定      我愿意天涯海角都随你去
    我知道一切不容易          我的心一直温习说服自己
    最怕你忽然说要放弃      爱真的需要勇气来面对流言蜚语
    只要你一个眼神肯定      我的爱就有意义
    我们都需要勇气              去相信会在一起
    人潮拥挤我能感觉你      放在我手心里你的真心